Thursday, April 30, 2009

Parents

Can they be wrong? Are they always right? If yes, why! If not, why! Well, this question is one thing, I have always asked. I dont know what is the right answer. For me, parents constitute a part that helps in bringing up the child and developing his thought process to make him capable of thinking in the right direction. In no way, there can be a correct methodology of bringing up a child. Everyone does based on their experiences and out of their own thinking/perspective.

So if one parent thinks that its ok to keep a child under air-conditioned environment during summers, lest he develops rashes, sun burns or gets a heat stroke; there is another one who thinks that its ok if the child plays out in the sun. This will develop his immunity system. The child shall learn how to bear the heat wave and survive. The child will accordingly develop his own thinking.

As a child, we always look upto our parents. For us they are the ones who are always right. But can there be a possibility that somewhere we may feel that why cant our parents understand our point of view rather than imposing their decisions on us. Isn’t it possible that the child may develop a negative attitude simply because nobody tried to understand him? The child was made to believe that the parents can never be wrong. If a child is not studying properly or not scoring the highest rank, then there is a problem with him. Remember Taare Zameen Par.. All the kid wanted was, some bit of understanding from his parents.

Can we simply follow what our parents say, without thinking how it may impact us. I do not question the intent of the parents…. Yes, they shall always think the best for us, BUT from their perspective. Sometimes, it becomes difficult to make the parents understand that while we do not doubt their thinking capability, but somewhere along the line, life teaches us, nurtures us and makes us experienced enough to think in our own way, which is different from theirs. Who said that there can be just one solution to a problem? I know a person who wanted to study Chartered Accountancy, but was made to take up Pharmacy and later he failed in it miserably. Why? All because his parents wanted him to take up Pharmacy and he never questioned them. I am sure his parents meant well for him, but the person lost on what he wanted to do.

Similar situation appears when kids grow up and are of marriageable age. The parents do their best to find the best match for them. The adult child sometimes knows that he is getting into a wrong relationship, but out of parental pressure he agrees. Ultimately who suffers? When you grow past 30, we are more of adults, ready to be parents ourselves. At that time, we do have the capacity to think and to know what is right and wrong. We do have the minds to gauge what kind of a life partner do we want. We can make out whether we can live with a certain person or not. While we do need parents for their love and support at everytime, but we do need our own space and the confidence to think that yes, we can be right as well.

Makes sense!!!

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Jinxed or Blessed

While I am jinxed on losing relations, people who come in close contact with me, are blessed to find their partners. I am yet to find my soulmate whereas all my friends have gone ahead and found someone they want to spend their life with. I often wonder, why does this happens.

I have a lot of friends who were single and were not able to find someone, till they meet me.. Once we start getting close, a magic happens and they find their better halves. While I am again left alone, thinking. And no, this has not happened once or twice but 'n' number of times where I have lost the count as well. Its like, their jinx of being single gets broken once they come in contact with me.. While I continue to remain single, they move on and find someone.

No matter who that person is: boy or a girl, they do find someone. While my jinx of being single continues(dont know for how long), for others I come as a blessing. I dont know how good or bad it is, but I dont feel any good about it. It feels as if I am on the losing end everytime. Everyone seems to move on happily and I am stagnant. I have to move on(in a different way) unwillingly to explore other options, which I dont like.... What is wrong with me!!!

Monday, April 13, 2009

Confession

What is better:

1. Confess and lose the person, since he cannot reciprocate.
2. Dont confess and still lose the person to someone else.

I dont know...I am wondering!!! I am looking for an answer...

Sunday, April 12, 2009

My Mask

I Face The World With A Smile
No One Knows What Is Hidden Inside
They See Only Happiness
They Cant See The Tears I've Cried


- Khuda Ke Liye

Saturday, April 11, 2009

Dont know why!

na jiski shakal hai koi,
na jiska naam hai koi
ik aisi shai ka kyon hamein
azal se intezaar hai

Friday, April 10, 2009

Have I grown old?

Last weekend I decided to take a tour across my favorite Dilli Haat and nearby places in Delhi. Weather seemed to be ok to me. Though it was quite sunny, I thought it was bearable. We reached around noon and it had become hot. As usual, I was excited to be there. A few minutes spent looking at the shops, and I realized that my energy level is going down. Though I was fully covered to protect myself from the heat and the sun, still it became unbearable. I had some water but no respite. Mom and I had a look at the few shops and that was it. I was no more interested in walking in the sun. Finished the lunch quickly there and we headed to Lajpat Nagar market... Most of the time was spent in traveling in the car, thanks to distances and traffic..

While Mom did her shopping, all I could do was wait to get back into the car and drive back home.. We were out for just 3-4 hours and I was already exhausted beyond explanation. I was not interested in looking at anything. My body had no stamina and felt fatigued. It was as if, there was not a single drop of water inside. I have no idea what was wrong with me. On our way back, I entered into a Allen Solly showroom just to feel a bit nice with all the cool air around me... I could not stand the sun anymore. I am quite used to roaming out in the sun but this day, I just could not.

I was counting every minute when I would get back home and feel better. I was completely drained out by the time I reached home in the evening. It seemed as if I have become old that I could not even bear the April sun. It was hot but not like burning hot.. God only knows what will happen when the real summers will come and if I have to go out during that time.

Thursday, April 02, 2009

And when the musical chord strikes

Yeah yeah, you guessed it right. I am so much inclined towards learning to play a musical instrument.. The thought has been on top of my head since quite sometime. I have not decided which instrument it is, but I know that I want to learn. I have had a great fascination for guitar always but considering the time that is available, it seems to be a distant possibility.

Right now, I am looking for the classes in the closest vicinity considering the number of hours that I would be able to devote and I do not want to spend any time on traveling. I have always been in awe of people who can play some instrument. And the love for guitar goes way back to childhood when we grew up listening to Bryan Adams and like every other girl, I used to love his singing and the way he played the guitar (I still do)...

I am yet to decide about the instrument. It can be a keyboard or a guitar or a sitar or may be tabla. It all depends actually. Currently I need to find a music class where they have basic teaching. I have never learnt music before, apart from some singing done in school and then some lessons later on while doing my graduation.

The interest in music was always there. It was only the matter of putting one and one together and find the right path. Something inside me is jumping since for the past few days and urging me to take up the lessons, so I have decided now. I am hopeful to find a class suits my needs and then I shall also be able to flaunt my talent some day... :-) Above all, I shall be at peace and have something interesting happening.

Wednesday, April 01, 2009

Life in Numbers

D sent me this tag a few days ago. Since then I have been trying to figure out how to spill out my life in numbers. Here is the best that I could remember and have tried to do...

1- Times I have stood first in my class
2- I have been to UK
3- Years since I am in NCR
4- Times I have changed my school
5- The class which I did in two schools but not repeated.
6- Number of prospective grooms I have met till now.
7- Maximum number of kilos I ever lost.
8- Years since I am working
9- New destinations I have visited ever since I started traveling.
10- Pair of shoes/sandals that I have currently.