Friday, June 08, 2007

Male married friends

Having male married friends can be quite risky at times. The first time I made male friends was when I started working. All of them were bachelors. Then some friends got married... The friend circle kept on increasing and some already married friends were added.... Previously I had colleagues who were bachelors but now I have colleagues out of which 95% are married...

The underlying thought is, is there any impact on the friendship once they get married?? I feel 'Yes'... I will think twice before saying anything... There has to be a different kind of distance maintained. Dont go over-board with anything... You prevent them from getting too close... You watch out for their actions... You may not spend too much time with them over coffee or gossiping... You cut down going out with them so often.. You dont chat with them so much over the messenger available locally in the office... You dont make too many calls or send sms..... You will not ask them about their married life too much... You will think if he asks you for a advice regarding any problem he is facing with his married life...

What I can decipher is, that you dont want that getting too close to that person leads to any emotional bonding which can affect the lives of both him as well as yours.. You may still see him as a friend but what if he starts looking at you in a different way.... Nobody wants infidelity on its way, knowingly or unknowingly... So the best option is to maintain a distance.....

3 comments:

Achilles said...

... :) ...

... Loneliness ... has a language ... n it conveys the most in ... silence ...
... We may (unknowingly) be inviting ... (allowing)... (to come closer) ... ... ...


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Soulmate said...

Thats what!!! Its always better to maintain a distance(the more the better) rather than land up in a messy situation.

Achilles said...

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... the best is ... ' never be lonely ' ...
( be committed ...n for Life ... marriage could be one of the options ) ...