Friday, June 29, 2007

Quitting

Off late I have witnessed too many resignations in my organisation... Reasons vary from people to people... But the rate is quite alarming and it makes me wonder.... One of the few reasons that these youngsters(if I may call them) give, who are straight out of college, is the work is too much... They get tension when there are two tasks to be completed in a day.... They cannot work for more than 8 hours (which includes their fags, coffee,tea,lunch breaks)...

If there is any last minute work that is assigned, it gives them goose pimples... They are not ready to make that 'effort' of learning.... Everything should be given on a plate and then spoon fed... There is no research involved.. There is no initiative involved... If you set the expectation of completing a task in a day with a good amount of time dedicated to learning, even then there are excuses for not doing it.. They are not ready to stretch in case it is required... I feel that whole concept of hard work is missing... All the help is readily available to them.. They have Subject Matter Experts, mentors, buddies, reference documents available... Still these youngsters want to run away from it... The whole concept of taking the responsibility is missing. The right attitude towards the work is missing. The much needed respect towards the work is missing.

With this kind of attitude I am really not sure what does future has in store for them.. The ultimate decision is to quit and find another job... What is the guarantee that the new job will not be demanding and the employer will be a relaxed one.... Is quitting the right solution?? Are they not running away from work?? Is it wrong to expect the deadlines to be met.. Is it wrong to expect the hard work, effort required to learn about the job... Where is that initiative gone to become independent and prove their capability... Am I expecting too much???

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Infidelity

Ok, so after pre-marital sex comes another one: Infidelity. Like the previous post on pre-marital sex I shall try not to bring my opinion here...

Similar to pre-marital sex, infidelity also has its own takes.... You dont want to cheat on your partner but still you go ahead with it.... Is it because of something that is lacking at home and people try to find outside.. Is it that people dont know how to be satisfied with what they have! Well, everyone has their own reasons for getting into it... There are problems at home which lead them to infidelity. They find that much needed peace, comfort, love, solace in the company of someone else outside marriage... The other person in this infidelity relationship has his own reasons to step into it....

Some are there just to have fun.... The person can be of either sex and not necessarily be a man.... Some also tend to have that tendency of 'one in the hand and one in the bush'... Some are there to actually comfort the other person while some are themselves going through a bad phase in life, which they feel that the spouse is unable to understand...

Whatever the reasons may be, there is always a 'hitch' involved... There is a fear of 'what next'... In many situations, the relationship goes beyond emotional bonding and lands up being a physical one as well.... Somewhere in the corner of the heart, there is a guilt involved.. Even though both the partners are aware of it, still they try to ignore it...

The outcome of this relationship can be quite scary.. Still people go for it and it is beyond my understanding... If the present relationship is not working or you have fallen out of love its better to walk out of it, rather than land up in 'Infidelity'....

Monday, June 25, 2007

Filler words

Often I have seen that while talking, giving presentations, advising people have the tendency to use certain words.. Normally I would call these words as 'fillers'.. The moment someone runs out of words while communicating, these words come quite handy to most of the people.... Sometimes it gets very irritating when people use these words more than what is required... I will not say that I am perfect in communication but yes, I try to make a conscious effort not to use them as far as possible...

I have also observed that the 'fillers' are used when someone is not too confident or is not well prepared or is not sure of what he or she is saying.... These words are used only during verbal communication.. I have not come across anyone using these words in written communication.... I guess while we are speaking, there are lots of thoughts going on in our mind.. At that time, our mind runs faster than our tongue and in order to catch up with all the thoughts, we forget some and remember some.. But we eat some as well in between and thats where we use 'fillers'....

Commonly used 'fillers' that I have observed are:

Basically
Actually
You know
Because
I feel
Means
Exactly
I think
So
And
Obviously

not to forget the umm... hmm... aah

Please Forgive Me....

My current state is pulling me apart... Everything may be over... But this is what I feel... I cant help it.. I cant change it....

It still feels like our first night together
Feels like the first kiss and
It's gettin' better baby
No one can better this
I'm still hold on and you're still the one
The first time our eyes met it's the same feelin' I get
Only feels much stronger and I wanna love ya longer
You still turn the fire on

So If you're feelin' lonely.. don't
You're the only one I'd ever want
I only wanna make it good
So if I love ya a little more than I should

Please forgive me I know not what I do
Please forgive me I can't stop lovin' you
Don't deny me
This pain I'm going through
Please forgive me

If I need ya like I do
Please believe me
Every word I say is true
Please forgive me I can't stop loving you
Still feels like our best times are together
Feels like the first touch

We're still gettin' closer baby
Can't get close enough I'm still holdin' on
You're still number one I remember the smell of your skin
I remember everything
I remember all your moves
I remember you
I remember the nights ya know I still do

One thing I'm sure of
Is the way we make love
And the one thing I depend on
Is for us to stay strong
With every word and every breath I'm prayin'
That's why I'm sayin'...

- Bryan Adams

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

When you love someone...

When you love someone, you want to hold him forever
When you love someone, you remember all the good things about him
When you love someone, you accept him the way he is
When you love someone, you dont find a fault in him

When you love someone, you dont want the person to change
When you love someone, you walk at a different pace
When you love someone, you want to be with him all the time
When you love someone, a single thought of him brings a smile to your face

When you love someone, you pray for him
When you love someone, you take a risk
When you love someone, you go that extra mile
When you love someone, you dont think twice

When you love someone, time flies
When you love someone, you forget
When you love someone, you sacrifice
When you love someone, you forgive

But what will you do, if the person drops you in the end!!!

Friday, June 08, 2007

Male married friends

Having male married friends can be quite risky at times. The first time I made male friends was when I started working. All of them were bachelors. Then some friends got married... The friend circle kept on increasing and some already married friends were added.... Previously I had colleagues who were bachelors but now I have colleagues out of which 95% are married...

The underlying thought is, is there any impact on the friendship once they get married?? I feel 'Yes'... I will think twice before saying anything... There has to be a different kind of distance maintained. Dont go over-board with anything... You prevent them from getting too close... You watch out for their actions... You may not spend too much time with them over coffee or gossiping... You cut down going out with them so often.. You dont chat with them so much over the messenger available locally in the office... You dont make too many calls or send sms..... You will not ask them about their married life too much... You will think if he asks you for a advice regarding any problem he is facing with his married life...

What I can decipher is, that you dont want that getting too close to that person leads to any emotional bonding which can affect the lives of both him as well as yours.. You may still see him as a friend but what if he starts looking at you in a different way.... Nobody wants infidelity on its way, knowingly or unknowingly... So the best option is to maintain a distance.....

Thursday, June 07, 2007

Dilemma of buying a house.

To have a house of one's own is everyone's dream... Mine as well.... Along with that come a lot of complications..... What size, location, funds, shifting, looking after? I am in total dilemma... I have always stayed in our own house ever since I can remember...

When I started working and had to move to a different city, I started staying in a rented house... In the beginning, the idea used to detest me a lot... I never liked staying in a rented house but there was no choice.... I always got this suggestion from well-wishers around me that I should buy a house of my own on EMI(expected monthly installments). The idea was to save the income tax and in the end, I will have a house of my own.... Very well said...

Here comes the problem associated with it. The amount of EMI is much more than the rent that I am paying currently. Bank refuses to give me so much loan on my current salary.. From where do I get another person and show his salary combined with mine! I dont have enough funds to make a downpayment... Normally the loan is for twenty years... The moment I hear this, I get de-motivated... Who has seen twenty years... I shall be paying a certain amount of EMI for the next years whether I have the money or not... Otherwise there is a penalty.... What if I dont work after few years.. Who will pay the EMI then??? There are other hassles associated with selling the house....

There is an option of putting the house on rent and pay the EMI.... But I dont like this idea... I am quite skeptical about how the tenants will keep the house since I am quite a cleanliness freak.... I like my house to be spic and span always....

Another thought is where do I buy the house?? In which city, which locality? If I change my job and move to a different city, then what will happen to the house that I buy in this city... Who will take care of it... Leaving an empty house is not safe.... I dont know where will I lead my retired life... So I really dont know where do I buy the house...

Phew!! One has to look into so many conditions before buying a house... I definitely want a house of my own and it is one of my dream... How will that be possible, I am still trying to figure out!!!