Friday, May 25, 2007

Being a woman...

Often I feel that being a woman is not so easy.... I have my own reasons to say this and not making a general statement about it... To begin with, when she gets married, its the girl who has to adjust more to keep the family happy and together.... She becomes a mother and then she has to adapt the changes brought about in her own system and life.. May be she has to sacrifice her career to bring up the children.

Now if she has a daughter and a son, it is automatically instilled in the daughter that she is the one who should be more adjusting. The daughter grows up doing all the adjustments throughout... Then comes her age to get married. So she is expected to adjust again with whatever first prospective groom comes on her way... The girl is good looking and has all the qualities, anyone would look for... The boy is a very average one and may not be the best one. But then she is expected to accept that... The boy has all the right to say that he wants a tall, fair, beautiful, educated girl, but the girl cannot put so many restrictions....

Consider a case where the girl is the bread-earner of the family... She goes early in the morning to the office.. Runs around the whole day listening to her colleagues, boss, team members... She is exhausted by the end of the day.. Half-dead is the word that I will like to use here... Reaches home late in the night and what does she find.. A whole lot of work pending for her.. She has to write the cheques, make phone calls, deposit the bills, do all the errands, take care that everything is perfect in the house, clean, cook, wash in case the maid doesnt turns up, write important letters.... At the end, if there is any time left and she wants to spend with herself, she is being criticized... If she goes out on one weekend with her friends, she is considered selfish, self-centered, careless... Every year she takes a break from work and takes the family out for a holiday to a new destination... One year she wants to go alone and there is a big hue and cry about it... People think that she doesnt care about her family and she wants to enjoy on her own.....

I wonder sometimes if all this was a boy, who was doing it, will he ever be questioned or criticized... Then why do we expect the woman to be a perfect human being and flawless... Based on my experiences and what I hear around me, many times I feel that its tough being a woman and act like a man in all the situations...

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