Friday, February 23, 2007

Marriage vs. Love

Is love necessary to get married? Is it difficult to love a person after marriage? Well, every person has a different perspective about it. While some say that love is necessary to get into the institution of marriage, other are of the opinion that love can blossom after marriage also... The situation arises in the case of arranged marriage. Two people do not know each other. They have met just a couple of times or may be never before. Can love develop after marriage... Will that be a forced liking or it will be from within. My perception is that it depends on what mindset do you have. If someone has decided that love can never happen after marriage then it will not happen. Marriage comprises of understanding, sharing, caring, accepting, supporting, co-operating, giving. When we realise the other person is ready to accept us as we are. He is ready to shower us with all his love, we automatically fall in love with that person. He becomes our strength. He gives us the support all the time. He loves us unconditionally, will we not be ready to love him too..

I have a friend who firmly believes that she cannot marry someone whom she doesnt loves... She also has a friend who loves her unconditionally and is ready to marry her the day she says 'Yes'... Sometimes I think of that boy why loves her when he knows very well that she does not. They are very good friends and share the utmost comfort level... Yet she says that she cannot marry him because she does not loves him. She also does not have any other person in her life whom she loves. So the option left is either to marry her friend or someone of her parents' choice.... She is ready to marry someone of her parents' choice provided she likes the person... Its not that she does not like her friend.. She does, but she is not ready to accept him as her husband.. Again a mindset.... With the time clicking away, the decision becomes all the more difficult... Marriage is not something we should hasten into.. But we need to have an open mind if we really want to settle down with a person..

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

There is no such thing as love...and ur guy friend is a sucker...even after knowing that the girl will marry any dog,which she finds better than him...he still is such a spineless creature to keep on following her...Ask him to get a life if possible, rather than be a WIMP!

Soulmate said...

Fall in love and then you will understand how beautiful it is... Waiting for someone doesnt make anyone a sucker or a WIMP... Sometimes things change with time.. One needs to have a lot of patience in love.....